how to sample your dream life

plus unlearning your money blocks

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good morning my favourite people!

today, the moon is in aries. aries is a cardinal fire sign, which means for some, there’s great energy for initiating and starting new projects (especially coupled with the fact that the sun is in leo, fire on fire!). as a virgo moon with a lot of water and earth placements, i have a hard time with aries energy. i either feel scattered and hectic or just want to take a nap.

today i need a nap.

✩‧₊* astro bestie *₊‧✩ @astr0kara

i don’t even remember what it was like to have thoughts without relating them to astrology

which means i have no energy for segues…

house update

i finally settled on what i want to do with my dining room! i’m taking my house furnishings pretty seriously, aiming for a mix of vintage and some really standout new pieces that i’ll keep for life. it took about two weeks of humming and hawing before i took the plunge and ordered my dining table (coming next week)! here’s my dining room mood board:

i’m seriously contemplating hanging up the light fixture myself, but i don’t want to have a hole in my ceiling until my dad comes to help me… so i might just leave it.

sampling your dream life

i posted to insta stories that i wanted to write about sampling your dream life, and y’all seemed pretty excited about it, so here we go!

i don’t remember where i heard this (it was probably a tiktok), but i think there’s so much power in sampling your dream life.

as i was walking up my basement stairs into my kitchen after the first couple days of living in my house, i had the feeling of “this is like an airbnb with all my favourite things.” and i think i only knew that feeling, because in the last year, partly because of the pandemic, and partly because i had gotten to a point in putting myself first that i actually took vacations, i rented a dream airbnb cottage for a few nights.

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it had two floors, three bathrooms, three bedrooms, two decks and a porch (more pics in the insta post above). before booking, i literally had to get over the idea that one, i didn’t deserve to rent a place like that and two, renting something like that on my own was a waste of money. but being in that space, even for three nights, gave me this feeling of what it would be like to own a house. i cooked a ton, met the neighbours, watched scary movies at night and only got a little scared.

before i rented that airbnb, i thought i would be buying a house by the end of the year, maybe even at the beginning of 2022. but being in that space really let me see and feel the vision. i was there during a new moon, so i fully visualized and manifested my house during my stay. less than three months later, i was a homeowner.

if you want to buy a house, rent one for a few nights. if you want to live in france one day, go there for a weekend. if you want to host a tv show, start a youtube channel. if you want a partner to take you on dates, take yourself on dates! give yourself the feeling of your dream, and you’ll get a little more visualization and manifestation fuel ✨

of course this isn’t a surefire way to start living your dream life, but i definitely think there’s something to getting over little hurdles around your worth and what you deserve, especially when it comes to spending money.

let’s talk money

learning to get over my mental blocks around spending money, which, surprise surprise, were very tied to my self worth and self love, has been so transformational in the past year. i was the kind of person who would look through cheese to find the one that was $5.57 instead of $6.01 (if you grew up with parents who had their own money trauma, you can probably relate). when i was a student with no income, this mindset was useful, but now that i’m an entrepreneur making six figures… i don’t need to do that anymore!

i know i shouldn’t feel the need to add an addendum to this, but i’m GONNA cause this is MY letter—talking about income makes me very uncomfortable, but i think women should normalize talking about income, not in a bragging way, but in a way that’s aspirational so other women know what’s possible!

if you want to learn more about unlearning your limiting beliefs around money, i highly recommend vanessa of mintworthy. she just so happened to write about sampling your dream life in her newsletter this week (love a synchronicity).

i attended one of her talks this year and she’s awesome at helping you figure out your money blocks. money blocks are any deep seated beliefs you have that can energetically and unconsciously prevent you from earning more money.

a few money blocks i’ve unlearned:

• i’m bad with money

• it’s bad to spend money

• i need to save all my money or else i won’t feel stable

• i need to save a certain amount of money before i can spend it

• spending money gives me anxiety

• i don’t understand money

• i don’t need more money

• i can only support myself if i have a 9 to 5 job

• i’m fine with what i have, i don’t deserve more

one i’m working through right now is thinking that wanting more money is greedy, or that i can’t be a good person if i have money. bezos certainly isn’t thinking this (and though i don’t think his morality is something to aspire to, he’s fucking rich), so why are so many women?

here are some of my new beliefs after working on my money mindset:

• money is an energy exchange

• all the money i spend comes back to me

• you have to spend money to make money

• i understand money and make good financial decisions

• i’m so grateful i get to spend money

• exchanging money for something i really want is a joy

poetry prompt

it’s the point in the letter where i remember i promised to include a prompt and poem written on the spot every week!

if you’re writing along, let me know in the comments 💬 and if you’re feeling brave, feel free to share your poem in the comments, tag me in an insta story, read it on tiktok, whatever you’d like.

prompt: look at how far you’ve come

standing on a mountain top
i see the climb that was my life
the self worth i picked up
the doubt i tossed out
the people i left at the bottom
telling me no
saying this life wasn’t possible
not for a woman
and definitely not for me
the ledge i almost fell off
the grassy pasture i laid in
resilience and rest
ambition and reflection
as i stand here
the sun meets my eye line
and she asks me,
what else could you do if you let go of fear?

you know i have a tiktok for you

i didn’t even think of how well this elsa majimbo tiktok pairs with money mindset when i favourited it. synchronicity, baby!

if you have a reflection, thought experiment, poem, or just love elsa majimbo, leave a comment! i respond as soon as i see them.

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you are worthy of your dreams and i love you, talk to you next week!

xoxo
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